Breaking up is hard to do.
Honestly, I suck at it. I’ll cringe when I see that overly personal and a bit crazy post on Facebook, I’ll try not to engage when I get told way too much info about situations that are none of my business, and sometimes I’ll even answer overly personal questions even though my brain is saying “Don’t do it! No!”
Last night I got totally called on the carpet by someone I have considered a close friend for years. She said many awful things. For a minute I believed that she might have a point. You see, some of the thing she said played right in to my mommy guilt…that I’m hurting Evan, that I’m lazy, etc. I know in my heart that none of those is true but it doesn’t make it any easier to hear.
Also….she said that I lied to you, my readers. That I act as though I am “super mom” though I have only one child at home generally & I have a nanny who helps while I’m at work (and does the laundry…yay!). I’m pretty sure I do NOT do that. I mention that we have a nanny quite often and I have never professed to be a super anything (especially not a super housekeeper….have you seen the clutter in my photos?). Regardless, I thought it worth mentioning so that I could clear up any misconceptions….I do NOT do laundry pretty much ever and I am more than willing to admit that. There…glad that’s on the table.
Well, after all of that I couldn’t figure out a way to get back to where we were so I decided it was time for a clean break. I wish her the best but I will not be participating in her life or allowing her to participate in mine.
It’s no one’s fault really….sometimes it just has to be done. Even good people can be toxic in the wrong relationships. The key to a happy life is to figure out when you are in one of those and end it.
Doesn’t make it easy, unfortunately.