Chasing Happy – My Weight Is Not a Measure of My Worth

Weight does not equal worth - Merry About Town

I will admit it.

I am vain. I love how I look. Mostly. Sometimes. I love that I have long hair that I think is pretty. I love that I have big eyes. I have a picture in my head of what I would love to look like. I do not look like that. You see, that picture is about 25 pounds lighter than I am right now. Yes, I do realize that is a bit crazy and no I am not even trying to get there. You see, I’ve started telling my inner voice that describes that picture to SHUT UP.

Before I knew to call what I feel on a daily basis anxiety, I knew I felt a sick feeling every time I thought about gaining weight or getting old. If I wasn’t “pretty”, would people still like me? Would they still listen to me? Would I still exist? Cue the sick feeling and breathlessness. That feeling often made me put down what I was eating and do something else. In fact, in a period of high stress, I quit eating almost completely. I felt so in control as the pounds fell off. Right up until one of my friends told me that someone asked her if I was sick. Like cancer sick. That was a wakeup call. I started eating again and the pounds came back. I felt better, though, and I was in a better place so I was okay with it.


Every once in a while the feeling came back.

These days, I am doing much better and the anxious feelings are kept at bay by medication. The positive is that I feel so much better. The negative is that the scale is registering more than it has in a LONG time. That little voice comes back and says “you SHOULD care….you SHOULD diet….you SHOULD be thinner” and then the anxiety feelings break through and I start listening to that voice.

Even though I know that I am more than my weight. I am more than my age and I am more than how I look.

I am a mom.

I am a wife.

I am a friend.

I am good enough.

No matter how much I weigh. Now if I could just tell that little voice to take a hike. One day at a time.

Chasing my happy and chasing my smile because it is my very best feature.

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7 Responses

  1. SamiJoe
    SamiJoe at |

    I think you already are telling it to SHUT UP… just by writing this post.

    1. Kyla@Mommy's Weird
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  2. Brandy
    Brandy at |

    Anxiety is a b*itch. Sorry for my bluntness.

    Good for you for recognizing that the anxiety is lying to you and that were able to start eating again. I obsess about my weight but have never stopped eating over it.

    But when my anxiety is bad, I lose my appetite and the weight falls off. One time I lost 22lbs. Even though it was the lowest weight I have ever been and I was pleased at the number I saw, I would look in the mirror and not recognize who that person was staring back at me.
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  3. Kathleen Garber
    Kathleen Garber at |

    Thanks for sharing your feelings. I’ve gained weight on mental health medication, it sucks. But if it’s what your body needs…. You are doing a great job of recognizing what thoughts are real and what are from your anxiety, that’s a big step in the right direction.
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  4. Katie S
    Katie S at |

    Thanks for being so honest and open. I thought I was the only one with crazy thoughts of self-hatred. I feel like this post was written for me. Some days I look in the mirror and feel great – not perfect – but very content with myself. And then one day out of the blue I’ll look at myself and all good positive thoughts about myself deteriorate and I avoid looking in the mirror. And like you, I worry, because I know that it is likely my body will gain weight and go through more changes as I get older. It is most definitely a challenge to make peace with yourself and who you are and to LOVE yourself. The good news is, from the other comments I see, you can find support and encouragement from others who feel the same! I will go out on a limb and be corny and say that you are GREAT and I don’t care what you look like. To quote the movie The Help – “You is smart, you is kind, you is important”. Maybe people like us should recite that to ourselves daily!

  5. Robin @ Farewell Stranger
    Robin @ Farewell Stranger at |

    Right there with you sister. On the even higher end of the scale that is, but there all the same.
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  6. Katherine
    Katherine at |

    Keep on repeating those positive messages to yourself, Merry! My daughter has severe anxiety and I know that one of the toughest struggles is to ignore the little voice that comes from anxiety and replace it with a voice that comes from your logical brain. I often have to remind my girl to “bully back” her anxiety…because that’s what it is: a bully. Good for you for standing up to it! You’re beautiful inside and out, at any weight. Remember that.
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