Do you hold on to the past? I know that we all do to some extent but it is a real problem for me. I moved to Canada over 10 years ago. Only in the last few have I given up on the desire to move back to Austin, TX where we moved from. Every time I change something, I cling to the old with a steel grasp. Unfortunately, being rooted in the old stops me from moving forward like I know I should. It makes me ask “Are you enjoying your life today?”
Yes, I gave up on my desire to move back to Austin but was that the end of the problem? Nope. I quit my job 4 years ago and until today I was still holding on. All of my work clothes hung in the closet. I still had work files nestled in a file box in the basement. All waiting for me in case I decided to pull them out and go back. Do I really want to go back? No but it felt safe having the option (even if it really wasn’t an option).
Feeling safe because you refuse to fully move on isn’t really safe. It’s a totally false feeling. I know that but it is still hard to move onward and let that safety net go.
I’m happy to tell you that I DID IT!
The work clothes were donated yesterday. The files are in a bag for the shredder. I’ve shut the door on yet another part of my past that needs to stay right where it is…in the past.
Now I am working to make where I am right now the best it can be. You see, I’ve also fallen into the trap of wishing for my ultimate future. For years I have wanted to move to Asia and travel with our family. It is a great plan. It would be amazing. Unfortunately, it does not work for my family right now. Dewey is not ready to retire and Evan loves school now. Instead of grasping my vision, I am flexing and changing to make sure we all have a future that we will enjoy.
Clinging to the past or putting all your energy into a vision of the future isn’t healthy. Both are equally detrimental to you and your family. I think I have finally come to realize that (boy I am slow).
How do you make sure you are Enjoying Your Life Today?